This is one of the best leadership tips I've come across.

Gold from Sally Blount. Dean at Kellogg School of Management 

 

Being an effective leader requires a high degree of self-awareness and self-actualization. 

Effective, seasoned leaders know that their interactions are about the people with whom they are interacting and  as a result, they need to stay vigilant and self-aware. 

They monitor their self-expression, learning how to turn up and down their personalities to the extent that it is helpful to the group and the tenor in the room. 

A strong leader can bring a 500-person audience alive with a heartfelt personal story that inspires customer responsiveness or hard work, and they can fade into the background in a 12-person conference room as others engage in problem-solving. 

The key is that their personality becomes a tool to be used with precision, not a pressing need that must get expression.

The truer you become in being you, the less you and your personality need to enter the room.